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Very good post from Prakash;I found it useful to me, You may find it useful to you too! Please read this when you find some time.
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What would Buddha do at work? On Conflicts
I am reading this book again. I thought of posting my notes. It’s a good reference book for self-development.
Buddha on Conflicts
“When conflict arises in your own family, don’t blame others. Instead, look for the cause in your own mind and action and pursue the solution there” – Anguttara Nikaya 3.31
Peace within a team, like peace within a family, is vital to the well-being of both individuals and the group. Blaming someone else does no good at all – in fact, it makes things worse.
· If you think the problem lies in someone else, then the solution must lie there as well. There is nothing you can do. You are powerless. This is no way to be.
· Instead, if you own the problem, then you begin to own the solution. You will think of things you can do make things better (no matter what the other person is doing)
When team conflict arises, ask yourself “How have I contributed to this situation?”
You know it takes two to tango. It’s doubtful that you are ever simply an innocent victim (Even if you are an innocent victim, drop the role now. Own the problem and empower yourself to end it). Look for what you can to contribute to a solution. Victims assign blame, winners makes things better. In the end, would you rather be the one who’s morally right or the one who’s fixed the problem?
Buddha on people hurting one another
“He insulted me, he beat me, robbed me”. Think this way and the hatred never ends.
“He insulted me, he beat me, robbed me”. Give this up and in you hatred ends.
Not by hate is hate defeated. Hate is quenched by love. This is eternal law. – Dhammapada – 3
Conflict is the fact of organization life. Following their desires and attachments, people are bound to hurt one another in the course of working together. But conflict’s naturalness doesn’t mean that we should let it continue.
So how should we handle the workplace hurts and conflicts?
We naturally want to respond in kind when others are hostile towards us, but Buddha tells us to resist this inclination. Other people’s hostility often has nothing to do with us – They are just acting out on their own karma. We meet others anger with our own anger, joining in their negative karma. We are simply adding fuel to the fire, endangering everyone including ourselves.
Instead, Buddha counsels us to take the high road – to respond to others hostility with compassion and forgiveness. Wise teacher throughout the ages have echoed Buddha’s wisdom: Jesus, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr and so many others in so many other cultures.
The soothing balm of unconditional love and understanding is the only thing that calms hostility in others.
Is this a tall order? Of course, it is. We are all humans. Buddha knows this. But harboring resentment because someone else hurt is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person will die. And acting vengefully, taking an eye for an eye, only leads us to the kingdom of blind. We must forgive and let go of revenge – Otherwise we become prisoners of our own anger. Quench your hate in the waters of love. It’s a slow business but sweet one.
One question immediately raises in our mind. "How do i remember all this?". Everything comes through practice. Making a conscious effort will defenitely help us in mastering the skills.
Happy Learning!!!
Talking about Thursday Linkfest
I am not blogging these days, but I thought of linking to content from some of my friends. Prakash has some really nice topics linked. I have just read the summaries, Blog marking it for reading them someday.
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The Journey, the Destination, and What Comes Next
The journey is part of the destination. They’re both important. The journey takes place for the sake of the destination, and the destination matters because of the journey. It’s not a big deal just to be in Paris – but to have arrived in the city of love after a long trip and a heartbreaking romance … that’s something to remember.
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http://artofgreatthings.com/2009/11/the-journey-the-destination-and-what-comes-next/
How to defeat burnout and stay motivated?
You know that feeling. Where you’re that close to finishing a project, or achieving a goal, or crossing a task off your to-do list … but you just can’t muster the energy. You’ve lost interest. You’re exhausted and drained. And you don’t know why.
That’s burnout. It’s something many of us are all too familiar with. I’d like to share with you a few ways that I fight burnout – or prevent it from catching me in the first place.
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How to Want Very Little?
Sincerely wanting little is difficult. It goes against our firmly rooted desire for certainty, for ownership. To cut through this psychological attachment requires more than step-by-step processes or following a list of tactics, it requires a shift in your thinking, a shift in the way you approach your day to day life and how you make decisions.
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The Habit Change Cheat Sheet: 29 Ways to Successfully Ingrain a Behavior
Our daily lives are often a series of habits played out through the day, a trammeled existence fettered by the slow accretion of our previous actions. But habits can be changed, as difficult as that may seem sometimes.
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Don’t Be a Victim of Politics (Rewind)
Politics and projects go hand in hand. Team conflict, competing agendas, stakeholder dysfunction, resource constraints, and a myriad of other challenges exist and will send your project careening out of control if not managed properly.
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http://projectsteps.blogspot.com/2009/09/dont-be-victim-of-politics-rewind.html
Software architecture is a platform for conversation
If you’re writing software as a part of your day-to-day job, then it’s likely that your software isn’t going to live in isolation. We tend to feel safe in our little project teams, particularly when everybody knows each other and team spirits are high. We’ve even built up development processes around helping us communicate better, prioritize better and ultimately deliver better software. However, most software projects are still developed in isolation by teams that are locked away from their users and their operational environments.
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Software architecture document guidelines
The purpose of the software architecture document (SAD) is to provide information that is complementary to the code. At a high level, this might include:
1. An outline description of the software architecture, including major software components and their interactions.
2. A common understanding of the drivers (requirements, constraints and principles) that influence the architecture.
3. A description of the hardware and software platforms on which the system is built and deployed.
4. Explicit justification of how the architecture satisfies the drivers.
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http://www.codingthearchitecture.com/pages/book/software-architecture-document-guidelines.html
Talking about Some Day Syndrome
Srini has another really nice entry, so here we go again 🙂
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I read this article “Tackling Someday Head On” and bookmarking 6 questions
What are you not doing even though you feel you should want it? Where do you claim to want something but then let fear stop you? What aren’t you tackling because it’s too much work? Are you actively engaged or on autopilot? How many projects do you have on the go at any one time? How good are you at prioritizing them? Where are you choosing safe over happy? I can realise that I am with SomeDay Syndrome this habit and I am going to change this. I should take action and the article provide some ways to take actions. I am going to post this blog and shut down my computer and go to bed.
Talking about When is work fun?
Srini has this nice entry going in his blog 😉
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I was reading this article “How to Make Knowledge Work Fun” and liked these phrases and hence bookmarking the same
If you are serving people you don’t like to be with and are not getting paid, that is insanity. If you are serving people you enjoy being with but are not getting paid, that is give-back. If you are serving people you don’t like to be with but are getting paid, that is work. If you are serving people you enjoy being with and are getting paid, that is fun
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